Tag : hair care
Some days, my hair is completely compliant, gorgeous, and controlled. Most days, it ain’t. Thankfully, over the years I’ve cultivated a few hacks that I find not only to be effective, but inexpensive and quick. And since I’m all about the sharing, I’ve systematically listed my tips and tricks for your […]
Listen up, boos of natural hair.
Sometimes you want to the surprise the natural hair wearers that you love, which is awesome. But when certain special days surprise YOU, it’s time for a contingency plan. Don’t have one? No worries. We gotcho playa.
1.The roses are sold out and if you want to survive the coming hours, you’re going to have to move on. Fortunately, the avocados are still plentiful. Head over to your local grocer and scoop up 8 to 10 for your lady. Packed with vitamins and healthy fats, they make an amazing strengthening and moisturizing conditioner when mashed down and blended with olive oil and plain yogurt.
She’ll thank you later.
2.You can buy her negligee if you want, but the chances of you picking a flattering cut, size and color from the dregs of yesterdays frenzy are very slim—especially under stress. Skip the silk and satin under things for silk and satin pillow cases and sheets. They’re easy on her kinks and coils and just as sexy as lingerie with the added bonus of being more thoughtful!
3. A bottle of champagne is nice. But for our boys on a budget a bottle of argan oil is right up your alley. 100% Pure Argan Oil isn’t as readily available as many of us naturalistas would like and when it is, its usually a pretty penny. (A cute penny, really. $10 an ounce isn’t unheard of.) But that’s only because it’s arguably one of the best oils available not only for hair, but for scalp and skin as well! If you’ve got $20 and can locate some in your city then Happy Valentines Day to you sir! You deserve it!
4. The girl who can run out of both shampoo and conditioner at the same time, is doing something terribly wrong. Many women will use one bottle of shampoo to two bottles of conditioner. And that doesn’t include those of us who are bathroom chemist and like to mix and blend and concoct things. So if you absolutely cannot locate avocados, satin sheets, or argan oil, pick up at least two bottles of her favorite conditioner and a nice leave in to go with it, making sure petroleum and mineral oil are not among the list of ingredients.
WARNING: When you walk in with bottles of conditioner, she will know that you forgot and you will be in trouble. This needs to be paired with the promise of shoe shopping, a nice meal, a back rub and #5.
5. Let’s say you can’t afford any of this (no shame, we’ve all been there). You can still show how much you care by indulging her in a nice, invigorating scalp massage. Scalp massages are important, not only for hair growth but also for stress and tension relief, but with our busy schedules, when it comes to hair care, scalp love is usually the first to be overlooked. Find a romantic movie on Netflix, light some candles and have her sit in a comfortable chair. Use the pads of your fingers to apply light pressure to the scalp in circular motions. Use peppermint or eucalyptus oil if you can. And be prepared to devote at least an hour.
Better luck next year!
Looking at Tanika Ray’s lush mane, one would never guess that there were a couple bumps in the road before she became a Curly Hair Queen. Tanika, who has rocked her curly fro and been a source of hair envy for as long as I can remember, does not recount it that way. She chatted* with Kiss My Curls about her hair journey, her career, and why she is proud to be a part of the natural hair community.
Tanika wore her natural texture up until middle school, when her mother convinced her to relax her hair. “I’m an LA girl, so it was very wash and go”, she remembers. Though she never fully relaxed her hair, Tanika did start mildly relaxing her edges by her mom’s hairstylist who insisted on a touch-up about 4 times a year. She recalls wearing her hair this way thru her years at Spelman College and her early 20s. Then Tanika, whose hair had grown 3/4 down her back officially did the “Big Chop”. “I went through a cleansing, a sort of hair purge,” she tells me. This left Tanika with what she describes as a “short, spikey do”.
After rocking it like this for a while, Tanika officially grew tired of the relaxer and went back to her natural curls.
“It was refreshing!” She recounts. But not everyone in her life felt the same way. Her agent flipped out, telling her that she would “never work again.” Tough words for an emerging entertainment personality to hear, but her agent couldn’t have been more wrong. “My career literately took off afterwards! Maybe it was a coincidence, or maybe it was the hair, but I know that suddenly I started getting a lot of calls and making appearances everywhere.”
Aside from the career burst, Tanika loves being a part of the natural hair community. “I was never in a sorority…but there is just something about being a part of a group of women who choose to wear their hair the way God made it, and rock it like a crown.” The natural hair community is indeed a proud one and Tanika is no exception. “I love my hair!” She exclaims. “I believe that it fully expresses my personality, more than any other hairstyle I’ve ever worn.”
If you are struggling with your natural hair and don’t have the nerve to take the plunge, Tanika has advice for you. “You have to find the confidence! And you have to make the decision for you. Don’t just do it because of pressure, or because it is a trend, do it for you! The way you will feel afterwards will be so worth it.”
So how does Tanika maintain her gorgeous mane? “I’ve adopted a new practice, I NEVER comb my hair outside of the shower. I load it with conditioner, detangle in the shower, and don’t touch it with a comb again until after I get out.” Once out of the shower, Tanika treats her hair only with products that moisturize. She avoids alcohol-based potions that leave her hair crunchy and stiff, at all cost. Her mantra’s simple, “Your hair is queen, respect it.”
We at Knotty & Nice could not agree more.
*answers may be paraphrased
back as a sign of relief. Finally I’m free! Free of damaging
chemicals, free of societies depiction of what “beautiful” is, and
free of being anything like anyone else. No matter how I wear my hair,
it will always and forever be MY HAIR.”
C: What caused the start of your natural hair journey?
J: I first decided that I wanted to wear my hair natural in April 2010, a month before graduating from grad school. I was relaxed with a short funky hair cut, and my new growth would surface within about three to four weeks after relaxing. Having that short cut required me to get relaxers and touch-ups way more frequently and it was beginning to get very expensive. When my new growth came in, I would always touch it and play with it. I liked the way the texture felt— a lot!
Let’s back track a bit. As mentioned before, my mother NEVER had the patience to deal with my hair, and at age 12 I got my first relaxer. I liked it. I liked that it was straight, and it was much easier to do my hair on a daily basis. At this age I was doing my own hair for school. I wore NOTHING but gelled back ponytails and buns. After about six months relaxing, I saw a DRASTIC change in my hair. I lost about five inches of hair, the color lightened up, and it wasn’t as thick. I continued getting my hair relaxed because I thought I had to. I’ve been relaxing my hair from age 12 to 24.
After being reunited with my natural texture through playing with my new growth, right then and there I decided that I would not get another relaxer. I hadn’t researched anything, I wasn’t even aware of the new natural movement. I didn’t know what I was going to do with my hair; I just knew that I did NOT want another relaxer in my head. So this is where I began my journey.
C: What obstacles have you faced since going natural?
J: Because of my lack of research prior to my decision to go natural, I did not properly take care of my hair during my transition. I decided to wear sew-ins until my relaxer grew out, but I left out the front, back, and sides of my real hair to cover the tracks. I constantly flat ironed those parts, and as a result they are severely damaged from the heat. #Fail. Now that I am more educated on natural hair care, I’m tempted to BC and start all over, but I’m not sure yet.
Now this next one may not seem like a huge obstacle to others, but for me it’s letting my boyfriend see me in the evening or at night after I have twisted my hair. We all know that the prep-twists the night before aren’t the sexiest of styles, lol, so I’m trying to get comfortable with him seeing me in twists and bonnet. He says he doesn’t care, but its more about how I feel.
C: What’s the best thing about being natural?
J: The best thing about being natural is standing out and daring to be different. I absolutely hate to blend in. Everyone’s hair texture is different. Although it may be similar to someone else’s texture, no two heads are ever the same. I also like how my hair has a mind of her own and she’s free spirited like I am. I can twist my hair at night and prep for it to come out a certain way, but if it doesn’t want to come out the way I wanted it to, it won’t! But she never fails to naturally fall into a cute style. I’m surprised every morning!
C: What differences have you noticed since going natural?
J: Since going natural, I get so many compliments from random strangers. Men, women, young, old, it doesn’t matter. I was in the nail shop and this white lady said, “I just love your hair”. I thanked her, then she went on to explain that she works in a law firm and how she wished her African American co workers would wear their hair like mine. She said she thinks it’s beautiful!
Based off of my personal experience, white men & women, and black MEN love natural hair. When a black woman compliments me, she’s already a natural or thinking about going natural. Sometimes it seems like it’s #teamnatural vs #teamrelaxed among black women. I love the natural hair movement and I pray it doesn’t create another dividing line between African American women like the dark skin vs. light skin dilemma. Hair texture does not make you more or less of person.
J: For those of you thinking about going natural, please do your research! There are 1000’s of Youtubers, bloggers, vloggers, authors, and stylists out there who can help you and answer any questions you may have about going natural. Just remember, they can help you with the basics, but the real journey begins with you getting to know your hair. You must understand your hair, embrace its flaws, and know its likes and dislikes.
I don’t know about anyone else, but I treat my hair as I would my child. I nourish it, care for it gently, feed it, wash it, and even dress it up! Only you will truly know your hair. Stay positive throughout your journey. You will get frustrated, angry, and maybe even discouraged. Just be patient. Immature people may try to belittle you, joke, or tell you that you are crazy for your decision to go natural. Don’t let them. Never conform! As long as you are confident and true to yourself, nothing else should matter.
African Pride sure knows how to treat a lady. Especially one whose mothered children. On May 17, 2013, I entered into the Art Revolution, a lofty art gallery on Chicago’s lower west side, not knowing exactly what to expect. I checked in as media, stepped onto the elevator, hit the number 2 […]
Janelle Monae AND Erykah Badu on the same track? How did we get so lucky????
My sister and I have been fans of Janelle Monae since she was still an indie artist, and we’ve loved Erykah Badu since FOREVER. Not only is she an amazing artist, but a lovely personality as we learned when she allowed us to interview her in 2011. Fans of both are in for a real treat; these two super naturals have teamed up on an awesome new track! Afros and lyrical wisdom are EVERYWHERE in this video, you literately HAVE to check it out below.
Once a year for 28 days (and 29 on Leap year) , African Americans come together to rehash the past 400 years–the treacherous Middle Passage, the horrors of slavery and the struggles of the civil rights movement. While these things display the strength, resilience and determination of the African race it still paints them as something of […]